i hope this doesn’t come on too strong, but, i’m about to make you fall in love with me. yes. sh*t is about to get real.
have i kicked your interest? i thought so. it peaked mine as well when i read Hallie of corals + cognacs post on a recent essay from the New York Times on how to fall in love… with anyone. you betcha, anyone. and she threw out a challenge to the blog world for us to post our answers. so, peoples, i hope you’re ready to take things to the next level. i mean we have been chatting online for like two hours every day, so i figured things were getting pretty serious anyways, so here we go.
alright here’s how this is going to work… according to psychologist arthur aron there are 36 questions that when answered with mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. i hand picked some for this post, you can see them all here. ready, set, love.
before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? why? not really; it would have to be a super important phone call, but even then i would worry about sounding too rehearsed or getting too flustered because it isn’t coming out the way i practiced.
when did you last sing to yourself? to someone else? my co-worker and i sang a line of the gem in a meeting today. and i can’t not jam out to this current song obsession when it comes on in the car.
given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? as much as wholeheartedly believe that jennifer lawrence or lauren graham and i would be instant best friends if just given the chance, i would choose my baby sister, Haley Ellen. we lost her far too soon, and i would love nothing more than to meet her and have a sister, even just for an evening. hopefully she learned how to cook up there though; because otherwise we’ll be having wine for dinner. (not that that’s a bad thing; but i would get hangry)
what would consistute a perfect day for you? in some order or another it would involve these items: caribou coffee + snuggles with #starksthepup + spending all day with [b] + wine + peanut butter + dancing + lots of pictures + all my family & friends. hmmm. i think i just described 9.12.15 <3
for what in your life do you feel most grateful? my family, my fiancé [b] and #starksthepup. they’re all just kind of beyond incredible.
if you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? i would have let me have that barbie jeep. man that would have been fancy.
is there something you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? why haven’t you done it? the short, vague answer; yes. i have so much that i’ve dreamt about… taking my blog to a more “legit” level; becoming a social media consultant; etc. the why? fear. fear of failure, of not being (gasp) perfect, that i’m not good enough. the happy ending is that i’m working on it. i’ll get there.
what is the greatest accomplishment of your life? being asked to host a half day workshop at EXHIBITOR2013 on social media. i will never forget getting that email while at baggage claim at the airport.
what is your most terrible memory? seeing my dad after he had surgery to remove cancer from his prostate. they had to move him to the bed in his room and the tears just rolled down his cheek because he was in so much pain. to see the strongest man you know so vulnerable and weak… so hard.
how do you feel about your relationship with your mother? my mom is my best friend. i couldn’t feel more grateful for the bond that we share. she is my role model, my rock, my inspiration and my biggest cheerleader. she’s incredible.
if you were going to become a close friend with your partner readers, please share what would be important for him or her to know. mornings are for quiet and for coffee. directions are hard. i need snacks. (always). some nights you just need wine and non-stop marathons of criminal minds. i am fragile; be gentle with my emotions. my hair sheds. everywhere. once i let you into my life, i will be there for you always and will expect the same in return. and sassiness is just part of the package.
tell your partner readers what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met. thank you, i appreciate you, you inspire and motivate me. there is nothing like someone telling me that they enjoyed something i wrote (heck, them just telling me that they read something i wrote makes my day); that it made them smile, helped them feel like they weren’t alone… those are the comments bloggers live for. to every single person who reads this, i love you. thank you for taking part in my story.
share with your partner readers an embarrassing moment in your life. just one? oh Lord. i used to have so many they were coined as “emma moments.” one of the top contenders would have to be when my dad and i went through the drive thru at the bank; i said my name and that i wanted to make a deposit. and then a wave of realization washed over me… i don’t bank there. #truestory (perhaps i will bring back some posts about emma moments, what do ya think?
when did you last cry in front of another person? by yourself? i’m an emotional person. so it was probably yesterday.
your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. after saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. what would it be? why? i think about this all the time actually. and as petty as this sounds it would probably be my phone. it has everything in it; my photos, my messages, my work, my blogs.
so… are we in love yet?
sass and sarcasm aside; i think there is definitely some truth behind this. when you open up to someone and the open back up to you… you get place and REAL relationships are formed. though it may seem easier to hide behind who you really are online, sometimes i feel like this is where i am most genuine. i’m so much better with the written words than i am with the verbal ones.
want to join in on the fun? create your own post with answers to these questions and be sure to link up to Hallie’s post! (here) and please share them with me too! xo
I love this post so much. I always, always rehearse for a big phone call. Sometimes I’ll even do a quick bathroom break before I make the call so I can calm down and know I’ll sound cool and collected.
Thanks so much lovely lady! Definitely guilty of the bathroom sneak away to collect myself. // ps. I am so glad you are back to the blogging world – I missed your wit and sassy curls.
I’m cracking up over the fact that you went to the wrong bank…woops! Loved this post :)
seriously, when i first started blogging i had a whole series about these “emma moment’s” which was really a nice way to say “blonde idiot moments” ;)
ive been reading your blog religiously now for about two months and I think that you have amazing talent. You have a way of telling a story that reches out, even if it was just answering the questions in this post. The part about your sister is beautiful, I’m sure she’s just as gorgeous as you are. Your heart has touched mine and I just had to tell you I look forward to your post every day.
God bless you and all he has given you
<3
Uff da. I can hardly form the words to respond to such an incredibly kind comment. thank you; thank you for taking the time to write such sweet words. I would be lying if i said i didn’t get a little teary reading it. i appreciate every word and cannot thank you enough for the love and encouragement. you too, have touched my heart.
God Bless you, you kind soul. xo
emma
It has been so sweet to read about your happenings now-a-days Emma! Seems like you’ve found your sweet, sweet calling of reaching out and inspiring others. Every time I read your posts, I feel like we’re having a sweet convo at Caribou about life! You are such a ray of sunshine and I hope your reach is beyond what you could dream of as a blogger! We all believe in your talent!! Blog on my friend!