9 tips to say yes to the dress

9 tips to help you say [yes to the dress]

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happy wedding wednesday, lovely people! i first have to state for documentation purposes that the windchill here in minnesota is currently -31 degrees. yes, 31 degrees, below zero. anyways, i digress… today we’re talking about saying yes to the dress! ask any girl what things she is most excited to do once she gets engaged she will say shopping for ‘the dress’ and if she doesn’t she’s lying. jkbs. i couldn’t wait to go and try on dresses but it was also a little overwhelming. so many styles, so many fits, so many fabrics and so many dollar signs. good news though, i made it through and have said yes to my dress! i am thankful to have had the BEST experience ever at Posh Bridal Couture [in wayzata, mn] all because of my fabulous consultant alissa falvey. she was beyond incredible and continues to make the whole experience like something straight out of a fairy tale.

so i’m taking everything i’ve learned during this process to help out my fellow brides and future brides. here are 10 tips to help you say yes to the dress.

  1. skip the entourage: i don’t know about you but when i watch say yes to the dress on TLC and i see a family reunion i get anxious for the bride. this experience is for you. think about who you want to be there with you for the moment you find “the one” and also who will give you honest (not brutally honest, necessarily – let’s leave the claws at home, ladies) feedback but also support you in whatever you choose. i brought my momma, and my personal attendants tash & lys. tash has styled me for all of life’s important events (first dates, first speaking engagement, etc.) so this was a must do for her.
  2. it might be the first one: everyone is so fearful of saying yes to the first dress they try on. stop it. i elaborate that you should absolutely try on more dresses; but if you keep going back to the first one and you can’t imagine yourself in anything else on that day, get it girl! the one that i ended up saying yes to was the second dress i tried on. i kept comparing everything else to it. and that’s when i knew.
  3. enjoy the experience: make a day of it. soak in every princess-like moment of it. it should be exciting and fun. we started our day at caribou, obviously, and then it was over to posh. and minnesota girls let me tell you, posh knows how to create the experience. they are in the most adorable location and it’s so quaint and fancy and beautiful in there. and you are greeted with mimosas and a fantastic staff of ladies. oh and they have snacks! oodles of snacks! we got this little area all to ourselves with a ginormous gorgeous mirror. and then the fun began. gorgeous gowns and necklaces and veils. try it all, i did, because i only plan on doing this once.
  4. make sure you can bust a move: you’re gonna be busy on the day of and you need to be comfortable. make sure that you can sit, breathe and most importantly dance. these are the important things.
  5. you probably won’t cry: i’m an emotional person. i can bawl from an episode of parenthood and the series finale of gilmore girls gets me every. single. time. i expected that my wedding dress would bring me tears. isn’t that what’s supposed to happen? the whole group crying with happiness? no. no it’s not. i mean it can, but it’s definitely not a deal breaker. nobody shed a tear. we were all smiling too much. and sipping our prosecco.
  6. be honest and be 100%: with yourself, your sales person and your lovely supporters. if you don’t like something, say it. don’t feel obligated just because they like it. if you want to try something different, let them know. you are the one that needs to feel like the best version of yourself in this dress and only you will know when that happens. i had another appt. scheduled at another bridal salon later that afternoon and i was really not sure what to do. i loved this dress, but “what if.” thankfully alissa encouraged me to go; she said she wanted me to feel 100%, and that she would be there until 5 and to give her a call and let her know. well we went, and i just kept comparing. and my 95% went to 100%. i knew and i called alissa and we headed back to posh.
  7. get a little dolled up: you don’t have to pull out all the stops but you want to feel good about yourself going into it. i had tash curl my hair and i wore it down, because that’s how i plan to wear it on the day of. dab a little color on those cheeks. and smile.
  8. know your price range: this one is hard because it really depends on what you’re comfortable with. but decide this before you go into your appointment. it’s less awkward for both you and the consultant. give them a sticking point that you cannot go over and make sure they don’t show you dresses above that. and do not get tempted to try on a uber expensive one because you can lie to yourself all you want but you will probably love it and contemplate selling your car to get it.
  9. take pictures: document the shit (pardon my language) out of this day. BUT! do it on someone elses phone. you don’t want anyone who shouldn’t see the dress before the day to do so, even accidentally. oh and of course selfies & #blingshots are a given.

9 tips to say yes to the dress

i hope these tidbits help you as you search for the dress; and a huge thank you to my momma, tash & lys for being there with me and to alissa and posh for being beyond incredible and making me feel like a princess and letting us stay after closing to cheers with prosecco and jam out to music. you are lovely people and i couldn’t be happier to be part of the posh family. xoxo


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my productivity level was off the charts this weekend (mostly) and that is what i am blaming for my lack of focus. that and the fact that christmas is officially 3 sleeps away. and i’m heading home to albert lea tomorrow. so yes, many distractions. anyways – we checked another big milestone off of the ‘ol wedding checklist this weekend. all of our save the dates are have been sent! sidenote: no wonder the written word is dying… $60 for 120 stamps?! what the what?!

264 days until #happilyeverbica

115 envelopes

61 cities

13 states

3 metallic sharpies

4 cups of coffee

2 engaged people

1 fabulous wedding

something about having the save the dates sent out just makes it all legit. so much excitement. i also can’t get over how amazing our save the dates turned out. my dear friend Alyssa Meier, who is also one of my fearless personal attendants, is doing all of the design for the wedding and seriously… she is nothing short of fantastically talented. i couldn’t imagine anything more perfect and i cannot wait to see everything else come together! [thanks lys!]

other items that were on the agenda this weekend: wrapping presents [with no help at all from #starksthepup], watching it’s a wonderful life, drinking homemade [spiked] hot chocolate, and coffee. lots of coffee.

hope you all had a wonderful weekend! xo
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the story of our wedding // how to ask your wedding party

how to ask your wedding party

how to ask your wedding party

how to ask your wedding party

how to ask your wedding party

so… you’ve said yes. (yay!) but now the pressure is on you the pop the question… to your girls! long gone are the days when you simply asked someone to be in your wedding party, oh no. there are now props and goodies and hashtags involved. it was so fun to search for all the ridiculously unique ways to ask my gals and envision myself creating these adorable care packages with homemade cake with our wedding colors in a mason jar and a dove that would fly out when they opened it and Parisian music would start to play… and then i remembered that i don’t do shit like that. and so, i came up with my own idea that better fit my style as well as my skill set.

i love photos. and take oodles of them. i like documentation. i love being able to look back and remember. i love nostalgia. so i decided to make photo collages to ask my girls to be part of my big day. i started by taking stock of ALL the photos of me and each girl and created folders for each one. pic monkey (free!) is my photo collage editor of choice, but go with what you feel. i did a mix of old and new photos and then added space for me to speak from the heart. i added a frame that fit each girls personal style to finish it up and make it something they could actually use.

to tie it all together i bought mini bottles of champagne and added my own special label. boom. wedding party accomplished. i should note that in the fella’s world it goes a little something like this:

“hey, so ah, you know you’re in the wedding right?” “yeah.” “cool.”

did you ask your wedding party in a snazzy way? i would love to hear about it. also, we are officially less than 300 days away until #happilyeverbica


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